New Year Resolution - Does it work?

Yesterday night i attended a talk in Clove and Clive, about "New year resolution. Does it work?".

Things that i learnt are:
1. Your resolution will not work if it is based on fear. For eg, you want to lose weight because you think that being fat is ugly or you dont like to your physical self, your thinking is based on fear. Even if you managed to shed some weight, it will not last.

2. Your resolution will work if it is based on love. Same like the example above, if you want to lose weight because you love yourself, then you will see the result.

3. Peace is when we see what is is. This phrase alone is very strong in meaning, will be another long chapter to write. According to Bryan Katie, who created The Work that transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of people across the world, the only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want. If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end the cat will look up at you and say, "Meow." Wanting reality to be different than it is is hopeless.

The Work reveals that what you think shouldn't have happenned should have happened. It should have happened because it did, and no thinking in the world can change it. This doesn't mean that you condone it or approve it. It just means that you can see things without resistance and without the confusion of your inner struggle. No one wants their children to get sick, no one wants to be in a car accident; but when there things happen, how can it be helpful to mentally argue with them? We know better than to do that, yet we do it, because we don't know how to stop.

We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don't feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind and fearless.

[Excerpt from Loving What Is - Four questions that can change your life, Bryon Katie with Stephen Mitchell]

For more information, refer http://www.thework.com

4. It is not necessary for you to make resolution only on the beginning of the year. Overtime, you might find yourself lose track of the resolution. So what do you do? Wait until the next year to make a new resolution? Haha...what a waste of time. You can make resolution anytime of the year when you feel right. Remember, to make it works, resolution must be based on love.

5. I google for Top 10 new year's resolution for 2008, this is what i found. The survey was done by Franklin Covey. Coincidentally, most of the resolutions forms the theme of this blog. :D

1. Get out of debt or save money

2. Lose weight

3. Develop a healthy habit (e.g., exercise or healthy eating)

4. Get organized

5. Develop a new skill or talent

6. Spend more time with family and friends

7. Other

8. Work less, play more

9. Break an unhealthy habit (e.g., smoking, alcohol, overeating)

10. Change employment

Happy New Year!
May peace, love and joy abound...